I'm an introvert. Half the time I tell people that they tell me I'm wrong, which is always fascinating to me, and the other half of the time people are surprised, but either way, I'm an introvert.
When we hear the word introvert, we tend to think about someone that stays inside, curls up in a corner and doesn't speak to anyone. That's a recluse. As an introvert I'm very particular about who I spend my time with and how often I spend time with other people.
One of the reasons people tell me I am not an introvert is because I love connection. I thrive on connection, as I believe most humans do, and I seek it out as much as I can. Connection for me is not small talk. It's not talking about work or the weather, that is exhausting. Connection is talking about our hopes and dreams, our fears and our traumas. Connection is about sharing what you love and are passionate about. I love connection.
In non-covid times I love to go to a sports bar on my own, meet some stranger while watching a game, and leave a few hours later knowing some of their deepest secrets. Most often this is a person I will never see again, but that connection for those few hours will stick with me long after I leave them.
When I talk about sharing my story, or when I encourage you to share yours, it's to develop a connection with another person. Our stories are powerful. Our stories define us. Our stories are us.
I think a lot of people are overwhelmed by the idea of sharing their story, or they may even think they don't have a story to share. I have certainly felt this way. I realized recently that our story isn't always about a defining moment. It's not always a life or death situation. Our story is simply a collection of traits, hobbies or events that made us who we are.
"We each have an infinite numbers of stories and at any given time we have no idea what story another person needs to hear."
We each have an infinite numbers of stories and at any given time we have no idea what story another person needs to hear. Yes, I have a story about depression and suicide. I have so many other stories as well. I have a story about how I fell in love with baseball, I have a story about moving to Seattle, I have a story about my first love, I have a story about breaking both of my arms within a two week period. I have a story each day and there isn't a single story that defines me unless I allow it to.
"I have a story each day and there isn't a single story that defines me unless I allow it to."
When we meet someone or when we are with someone we've known our entire lives, we never fully know what is going on in their head. We don't know what story they need to hear. They may need a laugh, they may need a cry, they made need someone to understand what they are going through.
The point is, don't let one story define you and don't think for one second you don't have a story to share. Everything you do is a story. Everything you love is a story. Allow the world to hear them. You never know when your story is going to be exactly what someone else needs.